We created the Self-Compassion Community as a place where people could come together to learn and strengthen the life-changing skill of self-compassion. Thousands of research studies show that self-compassion improves mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing. By joining our community, you will be firmly on the path to developing a healthier, more authentic way of relating to yourself and others. As a community member, you will be able to:
- Attend a live event with Kristin once a month. She will lead a practice and you can ask her questions on self-compassion directly.
- Join events with guest colleagues such as Chris Germer, Tara Brach, Dan Siegel, Dick Schwartz, Rick Hanson, and others!
- Attend weekly group mentor sessions to deepen your practice and connect with other community members.
- Give yourself the compassion you need in the moment using a toolkit with a variety of newly recorded guided self-compassion practices.
- Hang out in the Learning Corner to watch workshop clips or see Kristin's answers to people's questions about self-compassion.
- Read dozens of blog posts created by Kristin about self-compassion practice, which usually include a short video and guided exercise.
- Tell your story and connect with others in the Sharing Corner - focused on self-compassion in our personal, interpersonal and professional lives.
- Join a self-compassion book club to read, learn and discuss ideas with fellow members.
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- Gatherings with Kristin
- Guest Conversations
- Mentor Sessions
- Practice Toolkit
- Learning Corner
- Sharing Corner
- Practice Blogs
Gatherings with Kristin
Once a month, Kristin will hold a 75 minute online gathering. She will lead a 15 minute self-compassion practice, then open it up for questions from participants. Have your questions answered on any topic! You can also access a library of fascinating questions and answers from past gatherings in the Learning Corner.
Upcoming Gatherings
Community Gathering with Kristin
Community Gathering with Kristin
Community Gathering with Kristin
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Sample Q & A
Guest Conversations
In these 60 minute events, Dr. Neff will be joined by a colleague whose work touches on self-compassion. These free-flowing conversations will focus on guests’ views of the importance of self-compassion in the work they do. In addition to conversations with well-known luminaries, we’ll also focus on special topics such as self-compassion for teens, clinical applications, parenting, and so on. Time will be reserved at the end of each conversation for questions from participants.
Guests who have agreed to appear include....
- Michelle Becker (works with couples)
- Karen Bluth (works with teens)
- Tara Brach (bestselling author)
- Chris Germer (CMSC co-founder)
- Rick Hanson (bestselling author)
- Caverly Morgan (nondual teacher)
- Dick Schwartz (founder of IFS)
- Shauna Shapiro (mindfulness researcher)
- Dan Siegel (bestselling author)
- Jamie Lynn Tatera (caregivers/children)
Up Next:
Jul
13
Saturday,
11:00 am-12:00 pm
Michelle Becker is a licensed marriage and family therapist and compassion teacher, and author of Compassion for Couples Building the Skills of Loving Connection. Michelle is the developer...
Mentor Sessions
These one hour group zoom sessions (heldmultiple timeseach week) will be led by an experienced self-compassion mentor. It’s a precious opportunity to deepen your practice and connect with fellow community members. There will be affinity group mentor sessions for members who share an identity to discuss self-compassion practice. (We will start with a BIPOC group and LBGTQ+ group, led by a mentor who shares this identity.) A book club will be led by a mentor in which members will read and discuss selected books on self-compassion together. While these mentor sessions may be therapeutic, they are not therapy sessions but instead focus on building skills and resources.
is a licensed clinical social worker specializing in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and is the Director of Outpatient Programs for the UCLA Resnick Neuropsychiatric Hospital. James has meditated for over 30 years and is aTrained Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher.
James Rosser
LCSW, CMMT, CMT-P is a licensed psychotherapist since 1997 specializing in complex trauma and disassociation and is is a certified EMDR Therapist. Laila started her meditation journey in the Sufi tradition. She is also a Certified Mindful Self-Compassion teacher.
Laila Narsi
is certified in many mindfulness interventions including Mindful Self Compassion, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, Mindful Performance Enhancement, Awareness, and Knowledge, and Mindful and Intuitive Eating.
Amy Noelle
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"What do I need?" Practice Toolkit
Self-compassion involves giving ourselves what we need in the moment to alleviate suffering. Sometimes we need acceptance, sometimes we need to take action. This toolkit will provide a variety of empirically-supported self-compassion practices to help you meet your needs with strength and warmth.
These newly recorded guided practices are targeted toward different types of struggle such as feeling inadequate, caregiver distress, coping with difficult emotions, the need to stand up for yourself, the need to relax, and more. Practices are of different lengths, including mini practices (3 minutes or less) that can be used on the spot in daily life! New practices will be added continually.
Save and access your favorites anytime!
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Mini Tender Self-Compassion Break (2:05)
Learning Corner
In the learning corner, you can view short videos of Dr. Neff teaching about various self-compassion topics: basic concepts, fierce self-compassion, the science of self-compassion, compassionate motivation, working with difficult emotions, self-compassion for caregivers, core values, and much more.
In the learning corner you can also watch selected Q&A dialogues in which Dr. Neff answers people’s questions about all aspects of self-compassion research and practice (see sample dialogue in the Gatherings with Kristin tab).
Sample Lesson: The Three Elements of Self Compassion
Sharing Corner
The Sharing Corner is a place where members can introduce themselves to other members. Mentors will also be asking members to share their experiences in response to guiding questions in three domains of life: personal practice, family and relationships, and professional and public contexts. This type of sharing is key to embracing our common humanity, aswe gain insight intocommon triumphs, roadblocks, insights and struggles in self-compassion practice. Sharings will be screened to ensure that they are safe for everyone and adhere to community guidelines..
Practice Blogs
Dr. Neff has created dozens of blog posts to explore different aspects of self-compassion practice, such as how to create balance in our relationships, cope with generational pain, draw boundaries, motivate change, live a fulfilling life, and much more.
Most blog posts include a brief article written by Dr. Neff, a short video, and a guided practice.
Sample Practice Blog:
Self-Compassionate Motivation
One of the biggest blocks to practicing self-compassion is the belief that it will undermine our motivation. People think that if they’re kind to themselves, they’ll become lazy, irresponsible, and complacent. The opposite is true.Tender self-compassion allows us to accept ourselves unconditionally, while fierce self-compassion spurs us to take action to change behaviors or situations that cause suffering. This means that instead of taking it personally when we fail, we remember that failure is human, and we try to learn from our mistakes.
Read More
Gatherings with Kristin
Gatherings with Kristin
Once a month, Kristin will hold a 75 minute online gathering. She will lead a 15 minute self-compassion practice, then open it up for questions from participants. Have your questions answered on any topic! You can also access a library of fascinating questions and answers from past gatherings in the Learning Corner.
Upcoming Gatherings
Community Gathering with Kristin
Community Gathering with Kristin
Community Gathering with Kristin
View Calendar
Sample Q & A
Guest Conversations
Guest Conversations
In these 60 minute events, Dr. Neff will be joined by a colleague whose work touches on self-compassion. These free-flowing conversations will focus on guests’ views of the importance of self-compassion in the work they do. In addition to conversations with well-known luminaries, we’ll also focus on special topics such as self-compassion for teens, clinical applications, parenting, and so on. Time will be reserved at the end of each conversation for questions from participants.
Guests who have agreed to appear include....
- Michelle Becker (works with couples)
- Karen Bluth (works with teens)
- Tara Brach (bestselling author)
- Chris Germer (CMSC co-founder)
- Rick Hanson (bestselling author)
- Caverly Morgan (nondual teacher)
- Dick Schwartz (founder of IFS)
- Shauna Shapiro (mindfulness researcher)
- Dan Siegel (bestselling author)
- Jamie Lynn Tatera (caregivers/children)
Up Next:
Jul
13
Saturday,
11:00 am-12:00 pm
Michelle Becker is a licensed marriage and family therapist and compassion teacher, and author of Compassion for Couples Building the Skills of Loving Connection. Michelle is the developer...
Mentor Sessions
Mentor Sessions
These one hour group zoom sessions (heldmultiple timeseach week) will be led by an experienced self-compassion mentor. It’s a precious opportunity to deepen your practice and connect with fellow community members. There will be affinity group mentor sessions for members who share an identity to discuss self-compassion practice. (We will start with a BIPOC group and LBGTQ+ group, led by a mentor who shares this identity.) A book club will be led by a mentor in which members will read and discuss selected books on self-compassion together. While these mentor sessions may be therapeutic, they are not therapy sessions but instead focus on building skills and resources.
is a licensed clinical social worker specializing in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and is the Director of Outpatient Programs for the UCLA Resnick Neuropsychiatric Hospital. James has meditated for over 30 years and is aTrained Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher.
James Rosser
LCSW, CMMT, CMT-P is a licensed psychotherapist since 1997 specializing in complex trauma and disassociation and is is a certified EMDR Therapist. Laila started her meditation journey in the Sufi tradition. She is also a Certified Mindful Self-Compassion teacher.
Laila Narsi
is certified in many mindfulness interventions including Mindful Self Compassion, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, Mindful Performance Enhancement, Awareness, and Knowledge, and Mindful and Intuitive Eating.
Amy Noelle
Previous
Next
Practice Toolkit
"What do I need?" Practice Toolkit
Self-compassion involves giving ourselves what we need in the moment to alleviate suffering. Sometimes we need acceptance, sometimes we need to take action. This toolkit will provide a variety of empirically-supported self-compassion practices to help you meet your needs with strength and warmth.
These newly recorded guided practices are targeted toward different types of struggle such as feeling inadequate, caregiver distress, coping with difficult emotions, the need to stand up for yourself, the need to relax, and more. Practices are of different lengths, including mini practices (3 minutes or less) that can be used on the spot in daily life! New practices will be added continually.
Save and access your favorites anytime!
0:00/0:00
Mini Tender Self-Compassion Break (2:05)
Learning Corner
Learning Corner
In the learning corner, you can view short videos of Dr. Neff teaching about various self-compassion topics: basic concepts, fierce self-compassion, the science of self-compassion, compassionate motivation, working with difficult emotions, self-compassion for caregivers, core values, and much more.
In the learning corner you can also watch selected Q&A dialogues in which Dr. Neff answers people’s questions about all aspects of self-compassion research and practice (see sample dialogue in the Gatherings with Kristin tab).
Sample Lesson: The Three Elements of Self Compassion
Sharing Corner
Sharing Corner
The Sharing Corner is a place where members can introduce themselves to other members. Mentors will also be asking members to share their experiences in response to guiding questions in three domains of life: personal practice, family and relationships, and professional and public contexts. This type of sharing is key to embracing our common humanity, aswe gain insight intocommon triumphs, roadblocks, insights and struggles in self-compassion practice. Sharings will be screened to ensure that they are safe for everyone and adhere to community guidelines..
Sample Guiding Question Topics
- Challenges to being self-compassionate
- Ways to practice self-compassion in daily life
- The benefits of self-compassion for parents
- Impacts on romantic relationships
- Teaching self-compassion to therapy clients
- The role of self-compassion in leadership
Practice Blogs
Practice Blogs
Dr. Neff has created dozens of blog posts to explore different aspects of self-compassion practice, such as how to create balance in our relationships, cope with generational pain, draw boundaries, motivate change, live a fulfilling life, and much more.
Most blog posts include a brief article written by Dr. Neff, a short video, and a guided practice.
Sample Practice Blog:
Self-Compassionate Motivation
One of the biggest blocks to practicing self-compassion is the belief that it will undermine our motivation. People think that if they’re kind to themselves, they’ll become lazy, irresponsible, and complacent. The opposite is true.Tender self-compassion allows us to accept ourselves unconditionally, while fierce self-compassion spurs us to take action to change behaviors or situations that cause suffering. This means that instead of taking it personally when we fail, we remember that failure is human, and we try to learn from our mistakes.
Read More
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